I am not an expert in discussing love and marriage but I’d like to share my opinion on both subjects.
What is love? Scientist say there is a chemical reaction between two people. We don’t know really. However, when two people meet, there is something that attracts them to each other. Something that makes them keep coming back to each other. That attraction may be a pretty face, a twinkle of the eye, physical attributes or the like.
There is the usual courting where both persons look their best and present their side. At this time, it should be a way of developing intimacy and learning about each other but they’re too enamored to see the difference in each other. Love is blind, they say.
So, after sufficient time, they plan to get married. Love is still in the picture however, there is still the preparations for the nuptials. So, if I make a love cookie which crumbles every time there is a conflict, it would start to crumble around that time.
Take for instance, the wedding date or rather the place, the food and the invitations. If two people are really in love, they would survive this ordeal. But afterward, would they be prepared for the honeymoon? What are the expectations of the couple when finally, they experience intimacy? This is one area which shatters the love being. That’s if they “hadn’t known” each other before that.
There’s a time when couples realized that the honeymoon is over when they start experiencing a daily routine. Nowadays, both couples work and both have income coming in. Money issues come up where they have to decide where the money going to go. Whose money is going to be used for living expenses or bills to be paid. The cookie is starting to crumble if they don’t compromise. Maybe a joint account?
When couples get engage, they should start talking about starting a family and how many children they want to have. However, if they don’t and they get an unexpected surprised, are they ready for this? There is now a scramble to economize for the future. Will it be a boy or girl? Will they survive the newly arrival? The attention now shifts to the child and there will be resentment or acceptance. The love cookie will be getting a nick.
In every couple family life, there are problems that will come up. Problems with the in laws. Will they be living with us or are they visiting? Who is taking out the garbage? Washing dishes? Whose relatives are we visiting this holidays? How many gifts are we giving this year? The love cookie is almost bitten n half.
After so many years’ couples fall into a pattern where they recognize their living habits of each other and go through the motions of accepting them. Sometimes they bore each other. The love cookie is being shattered. It’s almost like each of them believe there’s some love there but they don’t show it.
When health problems come up, this is where real love come to the front. Support is needed and depending on the realization of how severe the problem is, couples should help. By now the love cookie is almost gone and somehow they need to bake that love cookie again and start all over again by understanding that life will offer them all the trials and tribulations and only love will overcome every situation that come their way. Like they say, “love conquers all”.
Author: Gene Cortez, Jr.
Mexican Actors

Cantinflas
I have in my 1958 yearbook, a picture of the famous Mexican celebrity, Mario Moreno “Cantinflas”, visiting Lanier high school. In fact, almost everybody was there to greet him. Unfortunately, I wasn’t there.
I had seen his old films on television but never on a big screen. I was seeing most the American westerns and serials at the Joy or the Obrero theater across the street. My wife, however, was opposite. She went to the Nacional theater to see her Mexican movies along with her grandmother and sisters. If I ask her today, she’ll remember all her Mexican movie stars by name and the movies they made.

Antonio Aguilar
Growing up in the West Side of San Antonio., especially in the Alazan Apache courts area, most everybody would visit the Guadalupe and Progreso theaters which showed the latest Mexican movies. (The admission was cheaper than the downtown theaters.) I happen to catch some of them especially the ones with Pedro Infante. They were mostly Mexican westerns or so called “rancheras”.

Maria Victoria
However, I avoided the romantic movies. But I was captivated by one singing movie star whose hour glass figure was shown in a very tight fitting dress when she sang. Her name was Maria Victoria. Rumor is that she had to be picked up and place on stage before she sang because the dress went all the way to her ankles and she couldn’t walk. When she did sing, she sang with a lot of sex appeal. Later she stared in telenovelas where she played herself singing and a character, Inocencia in the telenovela “La Craida Bien Criada”. She is equal to Pedro Infante in her song portfolio.

María Antonieta Pons

Javier Solis
Our diet of Mexican movie stars went whether we enjoyed rancheras, comedy or rumbas. The latter starred Maria Antonieta Pons who danced her way in every rumba movie with other stars like Tin Tan. Of course, Tin Tan was a comedian who was known to dance rumbas, jitterbugs and sing rock and roll style. Other notables were Jorge Negrete, Javier Solis, Miguel Aceves Mejia, Demetrio Gonzales and many others.

Pedro Infante
Once in a while we would see a specific Mexican drama with Maria Felix or Pedro Armendariz. These were mostly Oscar winners, if they had Oscars in Mexico. The most prominent would be the trilogy, “Nosotros Los Pobres” with Pero Infante which is still seen today. Pedro is still revered today as the most loved by the Mexican people.
There were female Mexican Rancheras singers also. Lola Beltrán, Rosita Quintana and Lucha Villa. They formed the most movies starring themselves along with Javier Solis, Pedro Infante and Luis Aguilar.

Jorge Negrete
I failed to mention that one of the idols of Mexican cinema was Jorge Negrete. He was a tenor and He and Pedro Infante came out in several movies together. They were always trying to best each other in singing and with the women. Jorge, unfortunately was pelted with tomatoes here in San Antonio for whatever reason, I don’t know. Anyway, that’s the story I heard. When he passed away, Mexico honored him with a huge funeral.

Luis Aguilar
Beside Pero Infante, Luis Aguilar came to mind because when he started in the movies as a drama actor they found out he could sing. so they starred him in his own ranchera movies. He also teamed up with Pedro Infante in a trilogy of Motorcycle Cop movies. Later in life, he went back as a dramatic actor in a telenovela popular today.

Miguel Aceves Mejia
My most exciting event with Mexican actors came when I was stationed in the Republic of Panama. I had found out that Miguel Aceves Mejia was going to have a concert in one of the theaters downtown. I invited our friend Charles Valdez, who had never ventured outside Ft. Clayton due to the hostilities of the Panamanian. He relented and went with us and we were very wary about how they would view us. However, it was a great concert and everybody enjoyed it, especially me, who had never attended a concert like that.
- Rosita Quintana
- Lola Beltran
- Lucha Villa


